Love actually Tying The Knot with this wedding ceremony ritual

 “Tying The Knot” ritual, what is its meaning?

Throughout history and in many countries around the world, the hands of the marrying couple are bound as a sign of their commitment to one another, their bond, connection and eternal love. So the “Tying the Knot” ritual is literally to tie a knot around the couple’s hands to symbolise this.

The cords that are used for this ritual represent the couple as individuals, their past and the unique and special gifts they bring to their marriage.

What is the “True Lover’s Knot”?

A fisherman’s knot; the true lover’s knot, is the strongest there is and its bond will not break. Although the fisherman’s knot is one of the simplest to tie, it is also one of the sturdiest. When stress and pressure are applied, the knot only becomes stronger.

How to tie a Fisherman’s “True Lovers” Knot.

How does the “Tying The Knot” Ritual work?

This is a really simple ritual that is packed full of meaning.

There are many variations on how the “Tying The Knot” ritual can be performed. You will find that the celebrants who have included this ritual in a ceremony previously will have created their own special version. But the gist is that a fisherman’s knot is tied using two cords and then placed around the hands of the couple.

The completed knot represents the couple’s future, secure in the knowledge that their love and marriage will continue to be strong, despite the inevitable changes life brings.

What you choose to use to tie the knot is also completely up to you and a very personal choice. You could use ribbons, a cord or rope, just something that can be tied into a fisherman’s knot.

Who can be involved in the ritual?

Traditionally it is just the couple who will tie the fisherman knot around their hands.

However, I love it when couples involve people who are special to them.

In the “Tying, The Knot” ritual’s I have performed couples have included their mothers. Each mother has one cord that they tie into one fisherman’s knot. This is a great way to symbolise two families coming together as one as well as showing the family’s support of the marriage union.

You may also like to include a poem about knots. Your celebrant can read this or it can be another great way to involve a friend or family member.

One of my favourite “Knot” poems.

Knots of Love – written by, Tim Romines

Love and relationships are a lot like knots.
Like knots relationships are not originally pre-assembled
Instead, some assembly is required and maintenance is expected.
The strength of your knot should get stronger in time.

Knots can have one rope but the stronger need two.
Carefully woven within each other two ropes become one.
With every tie with every twist its strength becomes stronger and stronger
Some knots are temporary and some are never undone.

You the couple are the ropes, your relationship the knot
How tight you tie it is up to you both only you can decide.
Just remember the stronger you make your knot now
The harder it will be to untie.

Final note.

This is a beautiful ritual, no matter how you decide you would like to have it performed in your ceremony.

Just talk to your celebrant and they will give you suggestions and help guild you in creating a ritual that is perfect for you.

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