Wedding Order Of Service

The ceremony is the most important part of the day and the reason for all the wedding day celebrations. It also represents the love a couple has for each other and the commitment they are making for that love. 

Use this outline to help you envision how you would like your wedding ceremony. 

To be legally married in Australia the legal sections absolutely cannot be left out, but the other moments can be changed, moved around, or removed entirely depending on your style and preferences. Think about what’s important to you and what kind of ceremony will be the most meaningful.
Talk with your celebrant they are there to guide, suggest, and help you to create a ceremony that is perfect for you.

What you need to include, what can be left out and what you can add.
Wedding Ceremony Order Of Service
1) Decide on the type of ceremony

Religious, cultural, traditional, or non-religious wedding ceremony the first step to creating your ceremony will be to figure out the type of ceremony you want. You may even want to include different elements from each type of wedding ceremony to create your own.

2) Book your celebrant

It is really important to book your celebrant as soon as you have a wedding date. Yes, there are 1000’s celebrants to choose from but the good and popular ones book quickly.

Need help selecting your celebrant my blog has 10 top tips on how to choose your celebrant.


Samantha and Andrew's BeeKeepers Inn Wedding with Tanya McDonald Marriage Celebrant - De Lumiere Photography
3) Welcome and Introduction

This is to welcome guests, family, and friends to the wedding.

The introduction is about the union of marriage. Good celebrants will offer you either introduction options to select from or they will write one that best reflects the meaning of marriage to you.

For example:

The meaning of family

The meaning of love and marriage

How the couple’s relationship started

How and what they hope for the future

Samantha and Andrew's BeeKeepers Inn Wedding with Tanya McDonald Marriage Celebrant
4) Presentation (Traditionally known as “Giving Away”)

Traditionally this is the time in the ceremony when the celebrant asks,

“Who gives this woman to be married to this man” and the bride’s father says “I do”.

In contemporary weddings, the celebrant asks a similar question to the person(s) who have been chosen.

The question asked can vary from celebrant to celebrant. A good celebrant will give you options and you can use these or create your own.

The person or people the question can be asked to can be anyone you like. It could be the person walking you up the aisle, all the parents, or all your guests. Again this decision is totally up to you.

You may even decide not to include this section in your ceremony.

Oberon Gardens Wedding
5) Celebrant Authority (Momentum)

The Celebrant Authority is a legal section of the marriage and must be included as per subsection 46(1) of the Marriage Act. Sometimes referred to as the ‘momentum’ this must be used by Commonwealth-registered marriage celebrants in solemnising a marriage.

Now, I, (celebrants name), an authorised marriage celebrant, am duly authorised by the law to solemnise marriages according to law. Before you are joined in marriage in my presence and in the presence of these witnesses, I am to remind you of the solemn and binding nature of the relationship into which you are now about to enter.

Marriage, according to law in Australia, is the union of two people to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life.

6) The Asking

The Asking is for the couple to verify they are getting married because they want to. The celebrant will ask them both a question after which they will answer: I will/I do

Rosie and Adam Dubbo Zoo wedding with Tanya McDonald Marriage Celebrant
7) Vows

This is another legal section and as per subsection 45(2) of the Marriage Act sets out the minimum words (or vows) which must be used by the couple for a non-religious (civil) ceremony to be a marriage ceremony: Each of the parties to the marriage must say the vows to each other.

“I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, A.B. (or C.D.), take thee, C.D. (or A.B.), to be my lawful wedded (wife, husband or spouse).

Couples wishing to personalise their vows are able to add their chosen wording after saying the minimum words (so long as any material added does not contradict the minimum vows).

Nicknames should not be used in the legal section of the vows. However, shortened names or nicknames may be used in the personal vow section.

Writing your personal vows can be a daunting thought, but if you use the words from your heart it won’t be wrong. Don’t forget your celebrant is also there to help you.

Tanya McDonald Marriage Celebrant and MC
8) Ring Exchange

The exchange of wedding rings represents the vows the couple has exchanged.

In today’s society, some people select not to wear a ring. This can be for many reasons but a major reason is because of the field of work they are in.

If only one of the couple wants to exchange a ring then you may like to include a “Symbol of Unity” ritual for the 2nd person. Alternatively, you may select not to include this section.

Rebecca and Jason's Canberra Wedding with Tanya McDonald Marriage Celebrant
9) Declaration of Marriage

This is when the couple is legally declared married and when you are asked to seal your union with a kiss. 

The introduction of the kiss can be said in any way you like. Your celebrant should have some suggestions on different wording options.

Wedding Ceremony "The Kiss" Tanya McDonald Marriage Celebrant
10) Signing the register

Next, the legal documents are signed. 

Under section 44 of the Marriage Act, you require two witnesses over the age of 18 years who are present at the ceremony to sign the marriage certificates as witnesses to the marriage.

It is your choice of who you select as your witnesses as long as they comply with section 44 of the Marriage Act.

Some people couples have chosen are:




Best friends

Special family

Tonic Restaurant Millthorpe Wedding
11) Introduction

This is when the couple is presented to the guests and signals the end of the wedding ceremony.

Tanya McDonald Marriage Celebrant & MC
Add an extra personal touch.
Additions you can include in your ceremony
1) Marriage Ritual

You can select to perform a marriage ritual that has a significant meaning or one that allows you to include loved ones in your ceremony.

This is an extremely personal touch you can add to your ceremony.

For information on ritual ideas for your ceremony go to my wedding rituals blog.

Sherie and Matt's wedding sand ceremony Ridges Bathurst with Tanya McDonald Marriage Celebrant
2) Readings or Poems

Including a reading or poem in your ceremony is a great way to add a personal touch and to involve someone special in your ceremony.

For reading and poem ideas for your wedding go to my inspiration page.

Kierin and Nikki's country wedding with Tanya McDonald Marriage Celebrant
AboutTanya McDonald
With a decade in the wedding industry and a love for weddings, I'm here to guide your journey to the altar. No matter your vision, I'll assist in creating an extraordinary day. Reach out, and let's work together for an unforgettable wedding. From the moment you entrust me as your celebrant and/or master of ceremonies, my dedication is to stand by your side at every juncture. My aim is to ensure that your journey towards your special day is adorned with cherished moments and positive encounters, culminating in a wedding day that remains etched in your memory for all the right reasons.