The Asking is when I ask each of you the question(s) and you respond.
Examples of Wedding Asking

The following Asking examples can be changed, adjusted, added to, or combined to give you your own unique wording.

For more options, you can select an example from the Marriage Vows section. The wording in the Vow selection will read as a question but they can be adjusted to become a question.

1)

Celebrant: Do you (name) take (name) to be your (wife, husband, partner) to have and to hold from this day forward. For better for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health. To love and to cherish until death do us part.

(name): Yes I, (name) take you (name) to be no other than yourself. Loving what I know of you, trusting what I do not yet know, I will respect your integrity and have faith in your abiding love for me, through all our years, and in all that life may bring us. 

2) 

Celebrant: Do you (name), take (name), to be your partner in life, sharing your path, equal in love, and promise to honour and cherish her, through good times and bad, until death do you part? 

(name): I do.

3) 

Celebrant: Do you (name), take (name), to be your (wife, husband, partner in marriage)?

To be your equal and partner in life.

Do you promise to love, honour, and respect (her, him, name) in (her, his, name) successes and failures, to care for (her, him, name) in sickness and in health, and to grow with (her, him, name) throughout the seasons of life?

(name): I do.

4) 

Celebrant: (name) do you take (name) to be your (wife, husband, partner in marriage)? Do you promise to love, honour, cherish and protect (her, him, name) forsaking all others and holding only unto (her, him, name)?

(name): I do

5)

Celebrant: (name), today do you take (name) to be your (wife, husband, partner in marriage). To work together to create a home, becoming a part of one another. Will you help create a life that you can both cherish, inspiring your love for each other? Will you be honest, caring, and truthful? Will you love (name) as (she, he, name) is and not as you want (her, him, name) to be, and to grow old by (her, him, name) side as your lover and best friend?

(name): I will.

6) 

Celebrant: (name), do you take (name) to be your (wife, husband, partner in marriage)?

Do you promise to love, honour, respect (her, him, name) in (her, him, name) successes and in failures, to care for (her, him, name) in sickness and in health, to nurture (her, him, name), and to grow with (her, him, name) throughout the seasons of life?

(name): I do.

7) 

Celebrant: (name and name), since it is your intention to enter into marriage, please declare your consent. Have you come here freely today and without reservation to commit yourselves to each other in marriage?

(name and name): We have.

Celebrant: Will you be respectful and value one another as your equal, be open, honest, and patient, trust and have faith in one another, and be worthy of that trust?

(name and name): We will.

Celebrant: Marriage is an ongoing dialogue, a series of discussions that will help you find your way together. Will you listen and communicate with each other fully, and fearlessly?

(name and name): We will.

Celebrant: Every marriage requires a leap of faith. Will you work, even when the work is hard, to honour your vows?

(name and name): We will.

Celebrant: As your life unfolds before you, will you remain true to the promises you make this day?

(name and name): We will.

8)

Celebrant: (name), will you take (name) to be your soul mate and lawful (wife, husband, partner in marriage); will you love and respect (her, him, name), nurture (her, him, name) spirit, comfort (her, him, name) and be honest with (her, him, name).

(name): I will 

9)

Celebrant: Do you (name) promise to love (name) and respect (her, him, name), to share your life and your dreams, to build with (her, him, name) a home that is a place of love, happiness, commitment, and growth?

(name): I do.

Celebrant: Do you promise to be a companion to (her, him, name) in all of (her, him, name) successes and failures, (her, him, name) happiness and sadness, to always give to (her, him, name) your unwavering support and above all else, the freedom to be (name)? 

(name): I do.

10)

Celebrant: (name), today do you take (name) to be your (wife, partner in marriage)?

(name): I do.

Celebrant: (name), today do you take (name) to be your (husband, partner in marriage)?

(name): I do.

Celebrant: (name and name), will you both continue to work together to create a home, becoming a part of one another. Will you also create a life that you can both cherish, inspiring your love for each other? And will you continue to be honest, caring, and truthful?

(name and name): We will.

Celebrant: (name), will you love (name) as (she, he, they) (is, are) and not as you want (her, him, them) to be, and will you (name), love (name) as (he, she, they) (is, are) and not as you want (him, her, them) to be, as you both grow old by each other’s side as lovers and best friends? 

(name and name): We will.

11) 

Celebrant: (name), do you choose (name) to be your wedded (wife, partner in marriage).

(name): I do

Celebrant: (name), do choose (name) to be your wedded (husband, partner in marriage).

(name): I do

Celebrant: Do you both pledge to each other a life of giving and hoping. A life of growing and loving.

(name and name): We do

Celebrant: Will you share with each other in both work and play. Will you be by each other’s side in tears and in laughter?

(name and name): We do

Celebrant: And do you take each other as lovers, companions, and partners in life as you share your path, equal in love, a mirror for your true selves, and promise to cherish each other as you share your lives together.

(name and name): We do

12)

Celebrant: (name), do you take (name) to be your (wife, husband, partner in marriage)? Do you promise to love, honour, cherish and protect (her, him, name), forsaking all others and holding only unto (her, him, name).

(name): I do.

13)

Celebrant: (name), will you take (name) to be your lawful wedded (wife, husband, partner in marriage)? Will you love, honour, and respect (her, him, name) be honest with (her, him, name), and stand by (her, him, name) through whatever may come, so you can genuinely share your life together

(name): I do.

14) 

Celebrant: (name), today do you take (name) to be your (wife, husband, partner in marriage). Will you work side by side with (her, him, name) to create a life that you can both cherish? Will you love (name) as (she, he, they) (is, are) and not as you want (her, him, name) to be, and to grow old by (her, his, name) side as your lover and best friend?

(name): I do.

15)

Celebrant: Do you (name), take (name), to be your partner in marriage and in life. Will you love and honour (her, him, name), walk with (her, him, name), through life wherever it may lead, whatever may come.

(name): I do.

16)

Celebrant: (name), from the first moment you saw (name), you wanted to meet (her, him, name), wanted to know (her, him, name). From the moment you knew (her, him, name), you were in love with (her, him, name), and wanted to share your life with (her, him, name), and have done from that moment to this moment.

(name), do you promise for all moments to come, that you will love (her, him, name) with all your heart, and (she, he, name) will have your utter devotion?

(name): I will 

17)

Celebrant: (name) whatever lies ahead, whether good or bad, will you face together with (name)? 

(name): I will.

Celebrant: Distance may test you both for a time, and time may tire you both. But if you look to each other first, you will always see a friend. 

(name), will you be the person (name) can look to for all the days to come?

(name): I will.

Celebrant: (name), today do you take your place beside (name) as (her, his, name) (husband, wife, partner in marriage)?

(name): I do.

18)

Celebrant: (name), will you continue to respect (name), and commit to living your life with (her, him, name) together, for all the days to come.
(name): I will.

Celebrant: Will you continue to share this world with (her, him, name) for good and ill and be (her, his, name) partner, as (she, he, they) will be yours.

(name): I will.

19)

Celebrant: (name), today, is a day of music and celebration.
Do you pledge to continue to share your life with (name) whether the days that come are happy or sad?

(name): I do.

Celebrant: And (name), will you give yourself to (name) as (his, her, name) (wife, husband, partner in marriage)?

(name): I do.

20)

Celebrant: (name), do you take (name) to be your (wife, husband, partner in marriage) from this time onward.

To join with (her, him, name) and to share all that is to come. To be (her, him, name) faithful (husband, wife, partner in marriage), to give and to receive, to speak and to listen, to inspire and to respond; a commitment made in love, kept in faith, and eternally made new.

(name): I do.

21)

Celebrant: (name), do you offer (name) your love, your strength, your weaknesses, your support, your loyalty, and your faith for as long as we both shall live.

(name): I do.

22)

Celebrant: Do you (name), take (name), to be your life companion, to share your life openly with (her, him, name) to speak truthfully, to accept (her, him, name) fully as (she, he, they) (is, are) and encourage who (she, he, name) is becoming, to respect (her, him, name) uniqueness and compassionately support (her, him, them) through all of your life adventures together? 

(name): I do.

23)

Celebrant: Do you (name), take (name), to be your partner in life, to love (him, her, name), respect (him, her, name), celebrate (his, her, name) uniqueness, ensure (his, her, name) happiness and actively grow and support (him, her, name) throughout all of your life adventures?
(name): I will. 

24)

Celebrant: (name), do you promise to give (name) the best of yourself and to ask of (her, him, name) no more than (she, he, name) can give. 

(name): I do.

25)

Celebrant: (name), do you take (name) to be your (wife, husband, partner in marriage)? Do you promise to love, honour, cherish and protect (her, him, name), forsaking all others and holding only unto (her, him, name)? 

(name): I do. 

26)

Celebrant: (name), do you promise to be true to (name), to uplift and support (him, her, name) to challenge each other to be better and try new things all the time, and to share with (him, her, name), the beautiful moments of life.

(name): I will.

Celebrant: And no matter what trials you encounter together or how much time has passed, do you promise to never let your love fade, that you will always find strength in one another, and that you will continue to grow side by side.

(name): I do.

27)

Celebrant: Today, (name), do you join your life to (name), not merely as (her, his, name), (husband, wife, partner in marriage), but as (her, his, names) friend, lover, and confidant.

(name): I do.

Celebrant: Today, (name), do you join your life to (name), not merely as (his, her, name), (wife, husband, partner in marriage), but as (his, her, name), friend, lover, and confidant.

(name): I do.

Celebrant: Will you both be the other’s shoulder to lean on, the rock on which you rest, the companion of your life. And will you both walk your path together from this day forward.?

(name and name): We will.

28)

Celebrant: (name and name), today in front of your family and friends do you promise to encourage and inspire each other, to laugh with and at each other, and to comfort each other in times of sorrow and struggle. 

(name and name): We do.

Celebrant: Do you promise to love one another in good times and bad, when life is easy and when it is hard, when your love is simple and when it is not. 

(name and name): We do.

Celebrant: And do you both promise to cherish each other and to always hold each other in the highest regard for the rest of your lives. 

(name and name): We do.

29)

Celebrant: (name) do you take, (name) to be no other than yourself. Loving what you know of (her, him, name), trusting what I do not yet know, I will respect your integrity and have faith in your abiding love for (her, him, name), through all our years, and in all that life may bring.

(name): I do. 

30)

Celebrant: (name), will you take (name) to be your (wife, husband, partner in marriage), and (name) will you take (name) to be your (husband, wife, partner in marriage)?

(name and name): We do.

Celebrant: Will you love and cherish each other and stand by each other’s side, whatever may come.

(name and name): We will.

Celebrant: And will you give your relationship all it requires and deserves so that you can live the rest of your lives together in love and happiness.

(name and name): We will.

31)

Celebrant: (name), you fell in love with (name) for (her, his, name) qualities, abilities, and outlook on life. Do you promise to accept (her, him, name) the way (she, he, they) (is, are) and not try to reshape (her, him, name) in a different image.

And do you promise to respect (her, him, name) as a person with (her, his, name) own interests, desires, and needs, and to realise that although these may sometimes be different from yours, they are no less important?

(name): I do.

Celebrant: (name), do you promise to keep yourself open to (her, him, name) to grow along with (her, him, name) to face change beside (her, him, them) in order to keep your relationship alive and exciting. 

And do you promise to love (her, him, name) in good times and in bad, with all you have to give and all you feel inside in the only way you know how… completely and forever?

(name): I do.

32)

Celebrant: (name) do you take (name) to be your (wife, husband, partner in marriage)?

Do you promise to love, honour, and respect (her, him, name) to care for, nurture, encourage and inspire (her, him, name)? 

(name): I do.

33)

Celebrant:  Do you (name) welcome (name) as your (wife, husband, partner in marriage), offering (her, him, name) your love and encouragement, your trust and respect, as together you create your future?

(name): I will

Celebrant: Do you promise to be a companion to (her, him, name), in all of (her, his, name) successes and failures, to always give your unwavering support and above all else, the freedom to be (herself, himself, name)?

(name): I do

34)

Celebrant: (name), today you will marry your friend, the one you will live with,

dream with, and love. (name), do you take (name) to be your (wife, husband, partner in marriage)? 

(name): I do

35)

Celebrant: (name), as you take our vows today, you will be changed forever. Do you

take them gladly, and without reservation.

(name): I do

Celebrant: Do you promise to honour (name), believe in (her, him, name), protect (her, him, name), and do everything in your power to make your life happy and fulfilled.

(name): I do

Celebrant: (name), will you take (name)’s hand as you go with joy into our new life together.

(name): I do

36)

Celebrant: (name), from this day forward will you cherish (name), will you look with joy down the path of your tomorrow’s knowing, you will walk it together side by side, hand in hand and heart to heart.

(name): I do

37)

Celebrant: (name), do you come to this place today, as a (man, woman, person) standing alone and will you walk from it, by (name)’s side?

(name): I will.

Celebrant: And (name), today do you cross the threshold with (name) and enter into a new and lasting lifetime commitment.

(name), do you commit yourself to (name) as (her, his, name),  (wife, husband, partner in marriage)?

(name): I do.

38)

Celebrant: (name), as you take our vows today, you will be changed forever. Do you take them gladly, and without reservation?
(name): I do.

Celebrant: Do you promise to honour (name), believe in (her, him, name), protect (her, him, name), and do everything in your power to make your life together happy and fulfilled.
(name): I do.

39)

Celebrant: (name and name), will you take each other for today, tomorrow, and for all the rest of your days? Will you promise to stand beside each other, to dance together in times of joy, and to lift the other up in times of sadness?

(name and name): We will.

Celebrant: Will you rejoice together in times of health and comfort the other in times of illness?

Do you promise to turn to the other for solace, encouragement, and for inspiration?

(name and name): We will

Celebrant: And will you both promise to be faithful and true and to shower the other with love and affection for every joyous and blessed day, for the rest of our lives?

(name and name): We will

40)

Celebrant: (name), you used to be afraid of falling in love, of giving your heart away.

How could you trust a (man, woman, person) to love you, to give to you all that you wanted to give to (her, him, them)?

When you met (name), you realised how much you could share together. (She, he, name) has renewed your life:

So today do you willingly join your life together with (name).

(name): I do

41)

Celebrant: (name), do you take (name) to be your (wife, husband, partner in marriage)?.

(name): I do.

Celebrant: (name), do you take (name) to be your (wife, husband, partner in marriage)?.

(name): I do.

Celebrant: Do you promise to love each other in good times and in bad, when life seems easy and when it seems hard, when your love is simple, and when it is an effort.
(name and name): We do.

Celebrant: Do you both promise to be there when you are needed, to fill each other’s days with sunshine, to comfort and encourage, support and defend, and to help one another to reach your goals. To be best friends forever and to love for always with all your hearts as you become (husband, wife, partners in marriage)?.

(name and name): We do.

42)

Celebrant: (name), do you take (name) to be you (wife, husband, partner in marriage), from this time onward, to join with (her, him, name) and to share with (her, him, name) all that is to come, to be (her, him, name) faithful (wife, husband, partner in marriage), to give and to receive, to speak and to listen, to inspire and to respond; a commitment made in love, kept in faith, and eternally made new.

(name): I do.

43)

Celebrant: (name), do you come here today, to join (name)’s life to yours before your family and friends.

(name): I do.

Celebrant: (name), do you come here today, to join (name)’s life to yours before your family and friends.

(name): I do.

Celebrant: In their presence do you both pledge to be true to each other, to respect, and to grow together through the years.

And as time may pass, fortune may smile, trials may come; no matter what you may encounter together, do you vow that this love will be your only love.

(name and name): I do.

Celebrant: And will you both make your home in each other’s heart from this day forward.

(name and name): We will.

44) 

Celebrant: (name and name), from the moment your paths crossed, you’ve surprised, distracted, captivated, and challenged each other in a way that no other person ever has.

You’ve fallen in love with each other again and again, countless times, without reservation, and you both still can’t believe that today you’re getting married to your best friend.

(name and name) do you both promise to be true to each other, to uplift and support, to frustrate and challenge, and to share with each other the beautiful moments of life.

(name and name): We will 

Celebrant: Do you both promise that no matter what trials you encounter together or how much time has passed, you will never let your love fade, that you will always find strength in one another, and that you will continue to grow side by side.

(name and name): We will 

Celebrant: And do you both believe in the truth of what you are, and with every beat of your heart, will you always love each other.

(name and name): We will 

45)

Celebrant: (name), today do you take (name) to be your (wife, husband, partner in marriage). To work together to create a home, becoming a part of one another. Will you help create a life that you can both cherish, inspiring your love for each other? Will you be honest, caring, and truthful? Will you love (name) as (she, he, name) is and not as you want (her, him, name) to be, and to grow old by (her, his, name) side as your lover and best friend?

(name): I will.

46)

Celebrant: Do you (name), take (name), to be your (wife, husband, partner in marriage), your partner in life, and one true love? 

(name): I do.

Celebrant: Do you (name), take (name), to be your (wife, husband, partner in marriage), your partner in life, and one true love? 

(name): I do.

Celebrant: (name and name), will you both cherish your friendship and love for each other today, tomorrow, and forever?

(name and name): We will.

47)

Celebrant: Do you (name), choose (name) to be your (wife, husband, partner in marriage)?

(name): I do.

Celebrant: Do you (name), choose (name) to be your (wife, husband, partner in marriage)?

(name): I do.

Celebrant: Do you both promise to laugh together in good times and to stand by each other in bad.

(name and name): We do.

Celebrant: Do you both promise to encourage and inspire each other, to grow together sharing hopes, thoughts, and dreams as we build your lives together.

(name and name): We do.

Celebrant: And do you both promise to always be each other’s best friend and number one fan.

(name and name): We do

48)

Celebrant: (name), do you promise to always bring light to every day, to always hold (name) with tenderness and love, to have the patience that love demands, to speak when words are needed, and to share the silence when they are not, to agree to disagree so you both aren’t always wrong, to live within the warmth of each other’s heart and always call it home, and to face challenges that may carry you apart, you will always find your way back to each other.

(name): I do.

49)

Celebrant: (name), do you hereby pledge yourself to be faithful to (name).
To give yourself wholly to her this hour and promise to guard, cherish and protect (her, him, name) all the days of your life. 

(name): I do.

50)

Celebrant:  (name), do you promise to be a patient, always honest and compassionate with (name).

(name): I will.

Celebrant:  Will you continue to be (name)’s best friend as (she, he, they) (is, are) yours.

Will you remain (her, his, name) sweetheart, (her, his, name) helpmate throughout life and always put (her, him, them) first above your own needs.

(name): I will.

Celebrant:  (name), do you promise to live a life that will honour your vows and always make you glad to have married (name) this day.

(name): I do.

51) 

Celebrant: Do you (name and name), promise to commit yourselves to years of growth and sharing?

(name and name): We do

Celebrant: Do you promise to encourage and challenge each other to move in new directions and to achieve individual and shared goals?

(name and name): We do.

Celebrant: Do you promise to give yourselves to each other as you are, as you will be and to strive to do this for the rest of your lives together?

(name and name): We do.

52)

Celebrant: (name), do you take (name) to be your lifetime partner, secure in the knowledge that he will be your constant friend and one true love. 

(name): I do.

53)

Celebrant: (name), whatever lies ahead, whether good or bad, will you face together with (name)? 

(name): I will.

Celebrant: Distance may test you both for a time, and time may tire you both. But if you look to each other first, you will always see a friend. 

(name), will you be the person (name) can look to for all the days to come?

(name): I will.

Celebrant: (name), today do you take your place beside (name) as (her, his, name) (wife, husband, partner in marriage)?

(name): I do.

54)

Celebrant: (name), in the sight of God’s love and in the presence of your families and friends, do you take (name) to be your (wife, husband, partner in marriage)?

(name): I do.

Celebrant: Do you offer (name) your friendship and trust, promising to be faithful and understanding as long as we both shall live. 

(name): I do.

Celebrant: And (name), do you pledge the rest of your life to (name) as (her, his, name) partner and friend. In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen 

(name): I do.

55) 

Celebrant: (name), do you love (name), and is (she, he, name) your best friend.

(name): Yes.

Celebrant: And today do you give yourself to (name) in marriage.
Do you promise to encourage and inspire (her, him, name), to laugh with (her, him, name), and to comfort (her, him, name) in times of sorrow and struggle?
To love (her, him, name), in good times and in bad, when life seems easy and when it seems hard, when our love is simple, and when it is an effort.
And do you promise to cherish (her, him, name), and to always hold (her, him, name), in highest regard today, and all the days of our life? 

(name): I do.